The concept of talent is very attractive, particularly in a field like music. Whether it be Mozart, Taylor Swift, or the five year old piano player with a million hits on Youtube, people often presume that outstanding musicians possess some natural ability that allows them to do things other people can't.
With this concept in mind, we are often quick to praise young musicians for their "talent" if they are learning quickly and exceeding at an early age. This, however, is a critical error that we must all try to avoid.
Here are three reasons you should never compliment a child for their "talent."
1. You can't prove it.
Was Beethoven a talented composer? Maybe - but there is no concrete evidence to support such a claim. You cannot look at Beethoven's genes and clearly identify where his "talent" came from. Therefore, if we are to review this topic objectively on a foundation of col...
“The greatest danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we hit it” -Michelangelo
Far too often people find reasons to put limits on their dreams. Studies show this happens particularly often after we have encountered a failure (or two, or three, or more…). Yet what history and psychology also tell us is that this really is the silliest thing we can do for ourselves.
First, let’s clarify that there are some big differences between the kind of dreaming done by people like Michael Jordan and the dreaming done by characters in Disney movies.
Now don’t get me wrong – I love Disney movies, and I also think they can be a great source of inspiration from time to time. However, when it comes to us achieving our dreams, wishing upon a star won’t do anything (at least in my experience – I have tried!), fairy god-mothers do not exist, and it’...